“What will you give birth to this year?” At the end of 2017, a friend asked me this question when I told her I was having surgery to remove my fallopian tubes, finalizing our decision to remain childfree. I may never give birth to a living child, but I can birth ideas, creative work, projects […]
For most of my life, I assumed that I would be a mother, raising a wild, creative crew of young feisty children, my house filled with noise and love. Since our earliest days together, Ben and I would talk about our future kids, joking about how they’d better have musical talent, arguing over how many […]
Some people completely embrace the holidays. They love the decorations, putting lights up on the house, picking out presents for anyone and everyone – from a close friend to the mailman. They listen to the Bing Crosby Holiday Pandora station at work, declining to wear headphones because they’d rather share that holiday cheer with everyone […]
The moment you realize you are losing someone you love, you can see the grief coming, approaching like an endless ocean that you know you are about to jump into and attempt to swim across. My first miscarriage came two weeks after finding out I was pregnant, and when I started to bleed, I watched […]
“Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn’t settle for it.” ― Mandy Hale The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass Think about your life in the future. Imagine that everything has gone as well as it possibly could. You have worked hard and succeeded at […]
Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?- Mary OliverBefore, I was an achiever. My #1 strength in strengthsfinder, I was always working towards something. When I reached my goal (which I always did, finding ways around the roadblocks, when I fell, picking myself up to try […]
The world sees the motherwho pushes, breathing through her pain, birthingwho tenderly caresses a smooth, small facewho nourishes her child at her breastwho tells the story to her son of how he came into her lifewho watches her daughter grow into a womanThe wiping of noses and buttsthe lack of sleepthe inability to quiet the screaming discontentkisses given to mend boo booshugs […]
One day, after years of struggling with a diagnosis, with the emotional and physical ups and downs of treatments, exploring family-building options, and learning to protect your heart, you will realize that you have made it to the other side of the mountain that you climbed, that now you are on a winding path taking […]
We spend every day of our lives making choices, big and small. What to study in school, how to spend your paycheck, when to get out of bed (snuggle the pets for another few minutes or shower and get ready for work?), what city to live in, what to wear to the holiday party. We […]
